Along with my friend and colleague, Alan Hawkins, I have developed a web site called FatherWork that includes about 300 pages of materials intended to help men become better fathers. The site includes ideas, activities, stories, metaphors, and other kinds of material. Part of what we will be doing in family life coaching is to go through these materials together.
One of the models in helping clients in called Generative Fathering. This is a process of fathers turning their hearts to the children to bless the lives of children, their own lives, and their communities. Generative fathering is hard work that falls into seven categories:
- Relationship Work -working to create a healthy relationship
- Stewardship Work -providing for the physical needs and safety of children
- Development Work -changing to meet changing needs
- Ethical Work -teaching children values and helping them to relate with others in moral ways
- Spiritual Work -working to help child obtain purpose and joy
- Recreation Work -helping children relax and have fun
- Mentoring Work -helping older children learn skills to be a successful parent
Being generative is often a difficult task but one that brings much satisfaction to adults and necessary care for children. You can read more on this in our theory div.